3 Red Flags That You're Headed for a Breakup

Nice article for those who are in a relationship and would want to have it last long...took it from a bulletin post in friendster...

When it comes to breaking up, hindsight is 20/20. But wouldn't it be nice if you could tell that you and your partner were headed for a falling out before it happened?

Fortunately, you can predict a break up. And with just a little bit of tweaking, you can get back on track and rescue your relationship before it hits the rocks.

Red Flag #1: Tuning Out

One of the most common reasons relationships fail is because one or both partners is tuning out. It might sound minor, but in actuality, few things are more hurtful than being ignored by your loved one, whether that is accompanied by emotional neglect or physical distance.

The Cure: Take Down the Wall

Tuning back in is easy. All you have to do is agree to listen to your partner's feedback and dedicate time and emotion to the relationship again. Start taking down the emotional wall, brick by brick. Look at your partner in the eye when he or she speaks (even if it is not what you want to hear), make physical contact daily (even if it is just holding hands), and re-commit to the relationship.

Well for me, who says love conquers all even distance? It's really hard for love to remain and hold-on if the presence of one side is lacking...i mean yeah LDR(long-distance relationship) still works just like in those who are separated abroad...but still even if the relationship entails that sacrifice, both should see to it that the presence is still there...it may not be physically but the emotional assurance should be there...

Red Flag #2: Fighting Fire with Fire

Couples who fight fire with fire can expect a relationship that is constantly up in flames. Name-calling, sarcasm, criticism, and violence (from throwing things, slamming doors, to actual physical abuse) result in emotional wounds that are hard to heal and relationships that are hard to rescue.

The Cure: Pour Water on the Flames

The next time you feel anger guiding you to say, or do, things you might regret, take time to cool off. If that's not possible, try framing your complaints as requests. For instance instead of, "Why did you forget our date?," you could say, "I feel sad that you forgot our date. How can we make sure this doesn't happen again?" If your partner is the one who is fanning the flames, don't engage in the vicious cycle of insults and tantrums. You can't fight fire with fire if the other person won't engage in the flame-throwing.

You got it so damn right and I couldn't agree more! COMPROMISE is the key, learn how to compromise! It takes a lot of courage to swallow up your own pride, but in doing so it will entail a great reward...

Red Flag #3: Refusing to Own Up

No one is perfect, so why is it that some of us refuse to take responsibility in our most important relationships? Passing the buck and playing the victim are surefire ways to put a relationship in jeopardy.

The Cure: Take Responsibility for Your Actions

The next time you forget an anniversary, or say something hurtful to your spouse, don't try to pass the buck and refuse to take responsibility. Instead, admit where you went wrong and try harder next time. Sounds simple... but it can save your relationship.

One word to make the pain go away is "Sorry", coupled with sincerity...everything will be okay. Sounds simple but hard to do but it will definitely save a relationship. Just don't make it a habit of doing the wrong things and saying sorry for it, as the meaning and sincerity will fade away.

So to conclude, simple things that we do can affect the relationship, we just have to weigh things before we do them. By doing this we can make the relationship intact. Fight and arguements are common to every relationship, it matters only in the way we handle and the way we put closure to these problems. And besides, its these problems, the fights and arguements, that justifies the love between two people.

Dell Inspiron 1525 Laptop

Today, Louise and I were supposed to go to the gym coz it's been weeks again since the last time we worked out but because of the stronger desire to just hang out at a near by mall, we changed our plan and headed to Podium.

I brought along with me my laptop, in which i just bought mid of 2nd quarter this year and then after almost a month, its uber 250gb harddisk crashed. Yeah i know the feeling!!! Not to brag about my laptop that has soaring specs, a black dell inspiron 1525 model: 3gb RAM; 250gb SATA HD; Intel Core 2 Duo; 1.83Ghz; built-in 2 megapixel webcam; and wi-fi capable. I had my friend buy it in Canada, and it's really cheaper compared to those laptops available here that are far down with regards to their specs. Well i guess this is the price you pay for having it bought outside because the warranty support for it will be a tedious thing since there's no official Dell support center here in the country, and the only choice for me to avail the warranty included is to ship it back to Canada. No way! I'll just shed some money to have it fixed rather than taking the risk of sending it to Canada with no finite timing when it can be returned to me.

Anyway to cut it short, I went to GTG shop at the basement level of Podium and had them checked on the unit and advise on whether my speculation was true and on the solution. Vern, the guy from the shop received my laptop, and took out the harddisk from it and have it plugged like an external harddisk on a near by pc to check whether he can retrieve my numerous and precious files before reformatting it if it can still be used. We left the laptop with him while he was trying to revive it because it will just bore us out. Instead, he will just text me on the findings once done.

Side story...we left the GTG shop and had ourselves dine on NYPD, that's in the Cinema level of Podium, beside Subway. Louise was the one who picked the place and as well as the food. We pigged out on blue cheese delights. She ordered an NYPD Blue Pizza, Buffalo wings and Clam Chowder soup. I love the unique taste of blue cheese on the pizza, she's hesitant that i might not like the taste of it but c'mon i love food trip. The buffalo wings for me tops it all, i drooled on the sauce, its somewhat tangy and a bit spicy, that really complimented the dip made up of tartar cream sauce mixed with blue cheese. I love the dip! I even used some of it as a speard over my blue cheese pizza. Clam chowder is fine with me nothing speacial but delicious. Definitely i will go back to get some of the buffalo wings again and blue cheese pizza. Ok enough about food! Remember, you didn't go the gym! Hahahaha! Going back to the main topic...

I received an sms message from Vern, saying that he could no longer reformat my harddisk and worse, couldn't make it work anymore to retrieve my files. Oh no!Goodbye to my files which includes a lot of pictures, personal stuffs, previous work-related projects, etc...I don't have any back-up of those coz to sum them all would amount to more than 70gb in size. Regrets...regrets...if i haven't deleted the files after transferring them from my old laptop, i should still have them.

The only option left for me was to buy a new hard disk. I went to megamall to buy a new one, instead of letting the shop buy for me which would take a number of days before they can give me back my laptop. I bought a 160gb harddisk. I decided to downgrade it from the previous 250gb to 160gb harddisk because I am afraid that it might crash again and will just make the remaining free space go to waste. I'll just buy an external hard disk so that I can have more than 250gb of space that is separated from each other. So if ever, well I hope not anymore, one of the harddisk crash then i still have my backup stored in the other one. I got my laptop around 8pm, its fixed already with all the packaged installers installed. The total amount i spent for the repair is 5100 pesos, the breakdown will be 1800 pesos for the service fee and 3300 pesos for the 160gb hard disk.

Lessons learned:

1. Always have a back-up!

2. Don't let your crashed harddisk saturated for too long, as early as you can bring them to a repair shop for a higher chance in reviving and repairing(as advised by Vern)

3. Don't be so over confident that a powerful laptop could not be faulty.

Why bother blogging??

It never came to my mind why on earth I started out with this blog a couple of years ago, not until I came to a blog post on wordpress.com. So why did I create this blog in the first place? If I am going to cast a spell to turn back time and be the person I was before when I first started out this blog, definitely i'll say for fun and the trend. Couple of years ago, tech life has been living in its peak and online journals or the word 'blog' as the term the trendy and 'it' people calls it were sprouting everywhere. Lots of websites hosting free online journal are coming out, to date there are 14,500,000 hits when you try searching the words "free online journal blog" using Google. Yes, that much hit is returned, looks exaggerated but true. And because im still young then, almost all the yuppies have their own personal blogs and so i said to myself, i need to have one as well hahaha! Too petty right? I know very much childish and immature!

Anyway going back to present, as time goes by, people change and so as their perspective in things. If I am to ask now why do blog, I would simply say that it's my mirror. Through here I can definitely express myself. I can freely say the stuffs that I want to, no holds barred to everything. I can become true to myself without any pretentions. I can laugh and cry without any hesitations. For the longest time now, I've always try to hide away from what i really feel and who i really am. And it is because of this blog, i can open up. For me, its easier to express whatever is in me thru here rather than talk about it. And lastly full of memories worth reminiscing and lessons that are to be learned from... when i don't feel good, i just revisit my previous posts to unravel my feelings.

With blogging, I can carry out intellectual conversations and opinions on everything. Its also a good way for me to see thru other people's mind from different parts of the world. I consider blogging to be a portal of the heart and mind...a plane worth exploring. :)